How to Face Your Inner Demons to Get Unstuck

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Driven by hunger, a fox tried to reach some grapes hanging high on the vine but was unable to, although he leaped with all his strength. As he went away, the fox remarked, 'Oh, you aren't even ripe yet! I don't need any sour grapes.' People who speak disparagingly of things that they cannot attain would do well to apply this story to themselves.

It seems childish, but we do it all the time. Humans (to say nothing of foxes) try to make their current actions and beliefs consistent with their past actions and beliefs.

Trouble Letting Go

A related explanation is the sunk cost fallacy, which comes from economics and explains an investor's tendency to favor losing investments simply because he or she has already spent money on them. We've all heard this one from our dad: "I’ve paid for this day at the amusement park, so we’re damn well going to enjoy it" (never mind the fact that it’s raining and everyone's miserable). The goal was to have an enjoyable family vacation, not to make use of the park. At this point, you’d be better served by going back to the hotel to watch a movie.

The Unadorned Life is the Only One We're Living

Now that we've seen where the hard-question-imps get their power, it shouldn't be too hard to reveal them for the delusions they really are.

The antidote is simply to assess life as it presents itself to you, right now. Drop your expectations, delusions, and pride and look at the world as it really is. The sword of truth cuts through the fog of deception, as they say in warrior circles.

Of course, the process of actually changing is still going to be rough, but hopefully adopting these mindsets can help you feel hopeful that the change will benefit you.

Only through this kind of unbiased, unadorned assessment can we get past sticking points in our life.


Some hard questions I’ve faced in my life, the answer I told myself out loud, and the real answers:

Ouch! I winced reading those to myself.

Just like pulling a bad tooth, though, once I addressed the issues I was avoiding, I felt much better and was able to progress on my path to awesome!

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